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Incidentally, thank you all for your support!

I appreciate it very much. Yes, my daughter doubtless owes me an apology too, and we’ll talk this afternoon. Because my childhood was so odd, I have a hard time figuring out what “normal” mothers are supposed to do.  I did a lot for myself when I was a kid and often took care of my younger siblings.  I am very intelligent, but occasionally have the emotional maturity of child, because I just didn’t get to develop normally.  Nick reminds me of that.  I know that lots of people learn from scratch, and we are too.  My kids can cook and bake and do all of that.  They just like it when I “mother” them. And that’s okay with me for the most part. I want them to remember me that way.  We need to renegotiate some rules when we move soon.  It’s all a work in progress.  Absolutely yes to the accountability, though. Each of these kids is going to have their own room with a LOUD alarm clock in it. 

Thanks again, guys.  

Tag Game ⇢


Who tagged me: jagerbombnarcissism

Only play along if you want to-this took me a long time, but it was very fun. And I like jagerbombnarcissism a lot! If you follow “visual” blogs, I really enjoy his style.

Rule 1 - Post the rules. 
Rule 2 - Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post and then make 11 new ones. 
Rule 3 - Tag 11 people and link them to your post. 
Rule 4 - Let them know you’ve tagged them

I’m tagging:

  • iamtheness
  • iamagabbymom
  • saralaughs
  • blondecougar
  • momof3boysplusaman
  • melbajane
  • iheartporkchops
  • shimmerpxy
  • carols7
  • mysevenkids
  • thedrinkinggeek


1. What were your 10 favorite TV shows as a kid and who were your favorite characters in each?

I didn’t have a TV until I was about nine, and we were pretty much only allowed to watch “The Waltons” and “Little House on the Prairie”, so I’m going to make those my first two. I really liked John Boy, because he was so smart and aspired to break out of the mold of his family, even though he loved them.  On “Little House”, my favorite was Nellie, because she was an awesome character you loved to hate. I did see more TV as I got older, but those are the ones that really stuck with me, because getting to watch them was something we looked forward to all week. Yes, two hours of television a week.

2. Which era of time do you want to visit?

Hmmm. I’d have to go with the future. We were talking about this at home yesterday, and my oldest said she thought about visiting the past but was really bothered by the thought of the segregation and legal racism that existed during most of U.S. history. Proud moment-maybe I’ll just relive that one.

3. Favorite food and why?

It’s a toss up between lobster in butter and fresh, ripe mangoes. Um, because they are delicious!!

4. Which city do you want to live the rest of your life in?

I live in a medium sized town in Orange County, CA. I am shocked to say so, but I could happily live here the rest of my life.

5. Favorite genre of music?

Tough, but I’m going to say Classic Rock.

6. Your first Video Game console?

Ha! I’ve never had one, although there have been many in our home over the years-they all belong to my husband and kids. I did exist in the Pacman days, however. I even remember Donkey Kong.  And I did play those in arcades occasionally.

7. What is your favorite movie from the past 15 years?

I’m gona go with a cliche and pick Fight Club. I couldn’t stand Brad Pitt before that movie, but he was great in it, and I loved him in Snatch too.

8. Name one car that you’d like to own?

I am happy with my current car-a 2007 Honda Odyssey, which is new to me. I guess it could have a few more bells and whistles, but to me a car is a way to get from here to there.

9. Biggest celebrity crush (dead or alive)?

Sidney Poitier. My first and always.

10. Imagine the greatest house party you’ve ever been to. Describe the house, who would attend, and the first 5 songs on the tracklist.

It would be held at my friend Lisa’s house.  They have a pool, and an outdoor patio with pinball machines, pink flamingoes and tiki decor.  The place would be full of friends from my town that we’ve known for years now.  Couples and singles, ranging in age from teens to 50s, with lot of kids hanging out in the garage.  Everyone would bring their favorite dish, and there would be food and drinks and great conversation.

The first five songs on the tracklist would be:

1. Nancy Lee-by Vintage Trouble

2. Say Hey (I love you)-by Michael Franti and Spearhead

3. Baby Got Back-by Sir Mix-a-lot

4. Billie Jean-by Michael Jackson

5.Fat Bottom Girls-by Queen  

11. Any special talents? 

I can’t think of a thing. Perhaps I have a talent for putting people at ease in social situations, but that’s not very exciting.

And now, my 11 questions:

  1. When was your first kiss?
  2. Did you have a teacher who inspired you or made a difference in your life?
  3. Do you prefer fiction or non-fiction and what are your five favorite books?
  4. What is the farthest you have traveled from home?
  5. If you had to eat one meal in one restaurant every night for dinner for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  6. Do you consider yourself an artist? If so, tell me about it. If not, how do you categorize yourself in your own head?
  7. What is your biggest addiction?
  8. Talk radio or music?
  9. Bacon or sausage or veggie burgers?
  10. What is your favorite thing about tumblr?
  11. What made you smile today?

tumblr loves chocolate!

imagebespectacledcolfer replied to your photo: In the battle between thin and chocolate, thin…

That stuff is AMAZING! I have the chocolate and white chocolate versions in my fridge right now. :)

Kindred spirits!!!  It was delicious!

imagemeyechael replied to your photo: In the battle between thin and chocolate, thin…

Nice! send me all the chocolate

Fair enough, Meyechael. Can you mail me one of your homemade meals?

imagegetmetoparadise replied to your photo: In the battle between thin and chocolate, thin…

what is the deliciousness that I have yet to see in NY? I would be waving that white flag too!!

Philadelphia chocolate flavored cream cheese. Although it’s much more like cream cheese flavored chocolate.

imagemelbajane replied to your photo: In the battle between thin and chocolate, thin…

The white chocolate is my favorite!!!

I am going to have to try it.

imageblondecougar replied to your photo: In the battle between thin and chocolate, thin…

That looks good!

It exceeded my expectations.

imageeyanj replied to your photoIn the battle between thin and chocolate, thin…

chocolate is actually a pretty goddamn good for you.…… JUSTIFICATION!

And THIS is why you are my brother!  I can do the happy dance now!

imageiamagabbymom replied to your photoIn the battle between thin and chocolate, thin…

I love your face! MWAH!

MWAH right back at you!  You make me happy.

imagehavenotwantnot replied to your photoIn the battle between thin and chocolate, thin…

Stop apologizing for face spam. I love your face!

Kisses for you too!

Okay, now I have to go do all the chores I’ve been avoiding. tumblr is more fun.

Thank you!

image blondecougar replied to your post: Invisible Children

I try and give in my own community. I do this for shopping, charity, etc. I try to put money where I live and work whenever I can.

image markv9 replied to your post: Invisible Children

I give to cancer and diabetes and local charities

image jennstolen replied to your post: Invisible Children

I try to keep it local as best I can. Since your daughter wants to give to this place specifically, I think it’s a great opportunity for HER to give with her own money. Even if it’s only $5/month.

image momof3boysplusaman replied to your post: Invisible Children

it would be sweet if it was her money that was being donated .. idk, we are not big givers like your family ~ we give to the church, some times the girls scouts cuz they have cookies! I shouldn’t give you advice in this area

image hideyourluvaway replied to your post: Invisible Children

Have her raise money!

image romyck replied to your post: Invisible Children

Perhaps you can choose what charities to give each month, each month a different charity. That way you’ll still help.

Thank you all so much for your advice! And I don’t mean to imply that we give a lot.  We give a little at a time.  We did give a large chunk to the Heart Association last year, because we had just gotten a big check and my son had just had his heart condition cured.  Like I said, we do what we can, when we can. Sometimes it’s very little.  But I think giving, even when you feel worried about money yourself, reminds you that there are always people worse off than you are.  When my sister’s son had his accident, I was so touched at the unexpected people who gave.  Some who I know are truly barely making it themselves gave $5 or $10, and one very poor couple gave coupons.  But it was what they could do, and it was from the heart.

I think the idea of keeping things either local or personal is important, but I really like the concept of her raising money or giving her own money if it’s important to her.  This is a “teachable moment” as they say.  And you all teach me a little every day.  Thanks again!

My kids

Thank you all for the lovely replies. They mean a lot. I think I tend to be too critical of my kids, while simultaneously too soft in certain ways (since I was overly punished as a child).   My kids are smart and express themselves freely-sometimes too freely. They also cuss too much-at least the oldest-although not in public. They do know how to behave themselves better around other people, so they will get invited back.  They’ve always been the kids that behaved better for other people.   My oldest struggles in school a bit, due to ADD and control issues, but I think she’ll be fine in the long run, and I need to remind myself of that.  

They can give me a hard time, but, especially since I was a cult kid with no self-esteem, I am pleased that they are such strong individuals. They may not always do things as I’d like, but they are generally smart and caring and fight to be themselves.  We talk about almost every topic openly with them.  We push them hard to get good grades and not to get caught up in sex too early.  Other than that, we give them a lot of freedom, and all of their activities are the ones they choose.

imagetracingben replied to your post: I love getting one on one time with my oldest

Smart kid.

imageromyck replied to your post: I love getting one on one time with my oldest

Really smart!

imagenikefan45 replied to your post: I love getting one on one time with my oldest

Aw love this

imageallthedeliciousness replied to your post: I love getting one on one time with my oldest

From what I’ve read you have some unique kids, with great minds. I’m sure you’re proud of them, hope you’re proud of YOU too, they had to get it from some place :)

imageisemancometh replied to your post: I love getting one on one time with my oldest

that magical point when the teenager shows glimpses of adulthood! Love it!

imageblondecougar replied to your post: I love getting one on one time with my oldest

I love her take on it, she is so smart and thoughtful.

image blondecougar replied to your photo: Last night, while I was doing snack bar duty,…

Oh what does it say?

Sorry it’s so small! It says “Isabella”. Isn’t that funny? What a weird coincidence.

Happy Birthday, Melinda!!  You are the sweetest, sexiest nurse I know! I hope you had a wonderful day!

Happy Birthday, Melinda!!  You are the sweetest, sexiest nurse I know! I hope you had a wonderful day!


image blondecougar replied to your photo: This one is playing with makeup and crying because…

Dear little Bekaboo, You are SO pretty! You have gorgeous shiny hair, beautiful eyes and lips that women pay for!

Aw. I’m gonna read this to my little mini-me later. She got over herself. She always does. She also said, “Don’t tell me it’s hormones. You ALWAYS say it’s hormones!!” lol! In this case, I wasn’t actually going to say that (for once). She also knows she has very limited pouting time before Mom goes from sympathetic to putting her in time out.  Thanks, Melinda!!

Thanks to everyone for reading that long-winded post and supporting me.

imagemeyechael replied to your post: Working through the Holidays

It’s so hard if she won’t seek help. My friend went thru this with her husband. She couldn’t get him help. He left one day

Meyechael, you are so right. Not only will she not seek help, but the two people closest to her are actively keeping her from seeking it. My mother grew up with alcoholic parents and step-parents and has never known anything but hiding substance abuse. Ironic that the ill person left-my sister is always threatening to leave.

imageifihadwingsicouldfly replied to your post: Working through the Holidays

That’s the hardest part of addiction/mental illness/combo, having the person you once loved standing in front of you and knowing they aren’t there anymore, but could be if they got help. {hugs}

ifihadwingsicouldfly, exactly. I want her back. I don’t know if it could ever be the same, but she could get so much better. My great-aunt is bi-polar, and she does so well with the right cocktail of meds.

imageblondecougar replied to your post: Working through the Holidays

Love to you.

blondecougar, thank you! I’m still thinking of your dad and his girlfriend. 

imageaccio-batman replied to your postWorking through the Holidays

I love you ;c

accio-batman, you too, love. Thank you.


I’m no dummy. ;p And you are lovely!




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